Darling friend,
It’s that time of year again, where Stampede comes to an end and I go into my delicious summer hibernation at the cabin!
This message is to remind you that without action, things don’t change much. If you like where you’re at, then bask in it. If you want something to change, you have to change it. It’s not always about changing yourself though. I’d prefer it if you start by accepting yourself. Just where you are.
I’ve found that who I have in my life has a huge impact on the amount of joy I experience. We cheer each other on, ask questions, share our dreams, our fears and hug often. Family is a special kind of experience because they know you so well, accept and love all of you. They stick around. I realize not everyone is so lucky to have a tight knit crew.
I’ve seen many relationships come and go. You have too.
Have you ever felt so good about yourself when someone really sees you?
Have you ever felt bad about yourself when someone really sees you?
It’s so important to give that some attention. We don’t only get joy from others, but they sure will make an impact on our overall wellbeing.
Anyone who is not bringing out the best in you and vice versa is something that needs to be looked at. Not to judge or blame anyone, but to assess if this is good for you.
What’s hard about this external change is that, if you’re at all like me, it can feel hard to sometimes know if it’s a me issue or not? I want to do the right thing but how do you really know what’s right?
This is where a change must occur - at least to find out. Doing nothing rarely gives you answers, although wait long enough and things can get worse. Maybe that’s why. Only once it gets so bad, do you muster up the strength it takes to make a new move.
I see this most often with couples. The constant fighting, repetitive talking, lack of excitement, lack of repair. Yes, relationships do require work.
What’s too much work? When you don’t like who you’ve become.
Your people should generally bring out the best in you. If not, something is wrong.
If you’ve been at it a while you know to take the good with the bad. If there’s more bad than good, there’s a chance you may need to make a new move. For both of your sakes. But it takes courage. Self-esteem. Trust. Staying can seem easier, but your joy will suffer. Maybe you’ll find your way back to each other. That takes a bit of the sting out to make the first step. But if you don’t do something different, you’ll never know.
Your joy matters. Make room for people who want to be around you. Not all connections can love right. Or last.
This is just a part of life. And I wish you lot’s of love in it.
I’ll write to you again in September at some point. The weather dictates my timeline these days! Take great care this summer my friend.
All my love,
Kristi 💛
