2 mistakes people make in relationship

Hello hello!

Mel Robins and Matthew Hussey were jamming on this topic and I liked the reminders. So this is for you and me. 😁. Let’s appreciate there are many mistakes made in relationships. These are just 2 for today.

1) We can lose sight of what’s going right and can take them for granted.

Think of all the ways your loved one is good to you. The special things they do that are wonderful qualities. How they make your life better, more joyful, more magical, easier, do/say things that support you.

We can start to think of all these little things as ‘normal’ things. They become to be expected or think that’s what anyone would do. Who they used to be to you seemed extraordinary at the beginning, but now it’s just your life.

This is different from someone who used to be ‘magic’ to you but has stopped putting in the effort to maintain the relationship. And before you go blaming them, since I only have you here, we can only look at your effort. Oh wait, I wrote about effort recently so you’re good! 👍

This is a shift in perspective - What are they doing right?

(I would add to this, once you have your list - share it with them! Show your gratitude and appreciation). The cheapest gift in the world is a nice compliment.

2) We stop asking the right questions and think we already know everything about them.

We must keep growing and stay fresh for our partners. When you don’t have anything ‘new’ you can’t bring anything new to your person.

I personally love learning new things about my partner. How he sees the world, why he does what he does. But I wouldn’t know if I didn’t ask him. Like that saying goes, ‘be curious like a child who knows they don’t know!’ Also, this takes time. We don’t need to know everything all at once. That’s what the journey is for!

They also talked about the importance of understanding why your partner needs what they need.

But then, this is all going to take some time to reflect and discuss. If you value your relationship, you’ll find the time. And if not, don’t wonder why things don’t seem as wonderful as they used to. Pretty simple.

Here, just click the link on your next date night! This could be your second date or your 700th!
100 questions to ask in a relationship to deepen your connection — Calm Blog

Have fun!

All my love,
K 💛