Hey there!
You are wired to notice. Your brain is constantly scanning your environment to see threats and opportunities. How you interpret the information however, is up to you.
The difference between comparing and contrast is in how it feels. Notice it, yes. But comparison can make you feel bad about some area of your life. We’ve all done it, so I know you know what I mean.
Instead of comparing - which is deciding that something is better or worse - just notice the contrast. It’s just different. On the surface it may appear better or worse than you have it, but you don’t have all the information.
If you see another person having what you want - do what Robert Greene suggests - "turn your envy into emulation."
You can compare your situation with someone who appears to have more than you - and you feel bad. Or to someone who has less and feel better. But you see how silly this is right? You are allowing your feelings to waver based on externals that you have no control over.
Next time you see someone who has something you want, tell yourself - I can have that. I especially enjoy seeing things I want that I didn’t even know existed until I saw it! I then add it to my dream list. Why? Because I believe and have experienced that dreams come true!
With contrast you are able to witness differences without attaching emotion to it.
You may live life differently than the people around you. One way is not better, it’s just different.
If after reading this, you are still going to compare - here’s my suggestion:
If comparing with someone else makes you feel bad, take a closer look at your life. Maybe it’s a nudge that says it could be time for you to change something about yours.
If comparing with someone else makes you feel good, maybe it’s time for you to feel proud of yourself and the work you’ve done to get where you are.
You are a powerful creator.
All my love,
K 💛
