Hello fabulous friend!
Have you ever gotten so sick of something that you actually stopped caring so much?
Now, some experts might call this apathy but this isn’t the thing I’m referring to. And I didn’t say to stop caring - no no - always care (love). But you can turn it down a notch until things come back to balance.
I was very emotional at the beginning of the year. And I saw things I needed to see. It didn’t feel fun at the time. So, with reflection, 15 days later I can see I was ‘too serious’ about a few things. It came to me - I’m going to care a little less these days. I’ll match the efforts I’m receiving. I’m hanging with the people I feel good around. I know me, I know what I like.
I’m referring to all things that affect your life.
Like when you feel you’re not getting the support you need from a friend, stop giving them so much support.
When you’ve asked your partner for what you need and they don't budge, stop giving them so much.
Not in a 'screw you' way. In a 'I matter and I will make new choices' kind of way.
Notice how you feel doing the things you’re doing. And do more good feeling things - without feeling bad for any reason!
I’m getting really darn clear who I want in my life for example. What I expect in a friendship, partnership, career etc.
I’m going to be 50 this year! It’s my life - I'm the one to decide what I do and who’s in it.
I’ve noticed sometimes I spend time thinking about what I should be doing. Should I post more on social media, advertise and get out there? If I don’t do it I feel bad, question my motivation and sometimes wonder, what’s wrong with me. So no more of that. The answer is no because clearly I don’t want to. I don’t need to. Yet there is sometimes guilt if I don’t. No one else is putting that guilt on me but me. I can if I want to, and I can choose to not. Done.
I guess this is a story about the importance of knowing (and liking) yourself. Not everyone will. Realize that you have agency. Do you align with the people in your life? Are you enjoying the things you’re doing? If not, who do you think is supposed to handle it? Who makes these choices for your life?
I’m not going to be ‘nice Kristi’ when I’m actually annoyed that you’ve talked about yourself the whole time and haven’t asked me one question. I’ll try to be kind in my delivery though.
The BENEFITS: I feel lighter, more responsible for me, free of guilt and pressure, comfortable in my choices, less expectations of others, empowered.
I'm here for love. And I'm also caring less. So if I’m a little blunt over the next few weeks, this is why. Haha, see what next week brings!
Anything you’re going through you’d like to care a little less about?
All my love,
K 💛
