Hey there!
I received many replies from the last inSight so, thank you. It tells me people enjoy some higher thinking. 🤓
I love that so much of what I hear and take in, I’ve heard before. And yet, it lands differently as I evolve deeper into it.
It’s not that we change per se, it’s that we evolve. I can see looking back that it began with how I saw and responded to the world and how my outer experiences allowed me to learn and grow. Today it's much more about my inner experience.
Along the way, we accumulate tools to help our lives become easier. We learn to not judge ourselves or others, how to speak our truth (hopefully kindly), what we want to do with our time, who we want in our circle (who wants us in theirs), what brings us joy etc.
The stages we go through are constantly providing us with an upgrade (if we choose to look at it that way). I see my romantic relationship the same way. There are stages to becoming closer and stages to planning a future. There are stages in careers. Where you began is not where you are today.
It’s like we can’t have everything all at once because it would be too hard on our nervous system. Slow is good. Take a good bite of every stage you are in. Wherever you are, don’t worry, a new stage will show up.
New stages require you to mature. Age does this also. This is a good thing. It doesn’t mean you stop being child-like (curious, playful, adventurous). You just become really accountable for where you’re at.
I’ve written before how life is like a Netflix series. Different seasons and not always the same characters or plot. And isn’t that the fun of life? Adventure is all about not knowing. Madonna sang it back in the day - life is a mystery.
Stages to life, in my opinion, are about accepting, learning, growing, re-adjusting, reflecting, pausing, sharing, getting into the arena, building and loving more deeply.
Here’s where we’re unique - we’re all at different stages. What you are accepting is probably different right now than what I’m accepting. Your arena is different from mine.
Here’s where we’re more similar than different - we want a life worth living. We want our dreams to come true, to feel abundant and happy. I wonder, what does a life worth living mean to you?
We play it out differently but if you take a closer look, your people will mirror to you the thing you need to work on and they are often the same things. So the people in your life are perfect for you - IF you want to learn and grow and move to the next ‘stage.’
And I think it’s all about people. The people we meet along the way. How would we know ourselves if we didn’t have the world around us to reflect how we act?
Remember the problem you have right now is just information, if you want to evolve and get to another stage, you can.
All my love,
K 💛
