Want to feel better? You can!

Hey there, my fellow adventurer!

Warning - Imagination is required for reading this one! This is one of the many versions I’ve been taught about one way to look at your life. I mean, who’s to say?

Every single time an issue or challenge shows up in my life, I zoom in on it...

(Super cool that I have the time - I realize not everyone loves deep introspection or has the time, so I do my best to summarize for you).

… And every single time another puzzle piece of my soul is returned. Now, you may say, what does that even mean Kristi?

Imagine before you came into human existence, there was a point where you split into a bunch of fragments. And what if one of your reasons for being on earth was to go around and find them. This is what we could call our ‘triggers’ or wounds (puzzle pieces).

And once we find most of them, we would become more whole/happy/fulfilled. We’ll save complete wholeness for the enlightened ones though ok?

Sure sure, what about the people who trigger us? Shouldn’t they be accountable? Um no. That’s not in your control. And plus, believe me, I’ve tried to change them. Too frustrating. Let me save you some time.

Here’s what I do when I have negative feelings like disappointment, anger or hurt that is caused by someone else. Not every time. Sometimes it passes quickly. Maybe you’ve made quick repairs. This is when it’s big huge. You kind of want to scream or punch the person in the face. Of course you don’t but the animal (instinct) inside you (oh ya it’s there) definitely wants to hurt back.

Steps to pull yourself together again:

• Ask yourself who is in control right now, and how old do you feel? Have you ever felt this way before? Ok, good. Don’t figure it out. Who cares who or why. You just feel it.

• Decide to take control of yourself. I meditate. I have a good one that takes me into my soul and there’s a 10 minute space of quiet music where we get to chat. Just me and me.

• What does she want me to know? It’s usually an answer of you’re good, we got you, everything is exactly as it’s supposed to be. This calms me. I feel witnessed.

• Out of that I ask myself, how do I want to feel? Even though I am hurt, no one is hurting me now. This is present moment stuff.

• Calmer now, I do talk to a higher power. I ask that they hover over me. I ask to be graced so that I don’t act from my wounds. I trust because I know where I’m headed. And even though I don’t really know where I’m headed because honestly who really knows - I feel comforted. From somewhere deep inside of me, there is a feeling of love. Love for me, love for life and for the things I just don’t quite know yet. But no matter what happens, I will be just fine.

• Now feeling more empowered, I remind myself that I decide what happens for me. I decide who and what I do. I decide to focus on who I’m being. I decide no matter what is happening out there, I can choose to be peaceful inside. I’m on a journey afterall and I decide it’s going to be great no matter who’s on the ride with me. This is a skill I have honed, believe me. And you can too. And then we have to keep doing it, or we fall back into old gross habits of being a victim to our circumstances or trying to change others.

Of course I’m also asking for how I want things to be. I send love to my ‘enemy’ (that’s too harsh but you get the point). I surrender the result and do things I love in the meantime. Maybe you work things out, maybe you don’t. But the stress of it has lessened and you only deal with what you have now, which is yourself. Which is what you will always have - yourself.

It's an actual upgrade. I feel different. I see things differently. I don’t want to go back to how it was. I can now move forward. The way we act now will change because I’ve changed.

Oh another thing I did was study my ass off. I wrote about 8 pages of notes from one of my fave teachers Caroline Myss. It was exactly what I needed to get to my next level. This is called evolution.

Ask me how I feel now? Powerful. No blame. Attached to no particular outcome. Have a preference for sure. But the next issue that shows up, I have even more tools up my sleeve - in order to find my next fragment.

Now how do you see your issues? More like an adventure right? And guess what - you find them, not outside of yourself or in another person, but right where you left it - inside of you.

Since your issues come from inside of you - that’s where they have to be fixed. Sorry about that. There are no pills for this process. Anything else just stalls you. Which is totally fine. It’s up to you! You have free will.

PS. Another thing I did was call a girlfriend over and had a blast sharing what I’ve learned and we dissected all things and nerded out. And laughed a ton. Also great for the soul while it’s healing. Thank you friend, you helped a lot. 😘

More to come next week from all the notes I made from Caroline. She’s got a lot of gems.

All my love,
K 💛