Hello darling friend!
We all have a personal private life and a shared social life. You know who you are, your preferences, your dreams, your ambitions. Life comes with unknowns and it’s a discovery. We get what we want, and then we don’t. We can feel in control and yet completely powerless.
Happy lives have sad days and challenging chapters. No one is exempt from this. I’m a woman and I definitely allow my emotions to get the most of me at times. What helps me anytime I feel ‘off’ is to realize I’m not the only person in the world who has felt this way. That thought makes me feel less alone.
I close my eyes and band together with other people who have felt the same. People who have beautiful hearts who don’t always act in beautiful ways. I send out compassion and quickly receive some for myself.
I’ve noticed that at times when I’m hurting, there is also a softer more compassionate part of me that comes out.
In striving to become our ‘best’ version, we must make room for ‘the’ version, that is here now.
What I appreciate most about family love is the acceptance you feel no matter how you show up. We've all lost it. Said things wrong, offended someone - not our best version. But all the striving can feel tiring.
There are times we know better and still don’t do better. It takes an enormous amount of conscious effort to do better. Having to take thoughts and emotions out of a conversation can be very challenging.
The key is to not make excuses for bad behaviour or bad feelings. You can have a reason, but it’s not the reason to be a jerk. And yes, you will be a jerk. Haha. We’re all lovers and assholes!
So when you find yourself not ‘perfect,’ accept it, apologize and keep moving forward. The highs and lows of life actually create balance, excitement and growth opportunities OVER TIME.
Remember - you are not broken, you're human.
When I’m quick to react negatively, I find the tools help OVER TIME. Nervous system regulation, repairing a rupture, calm and kind communication and remembering we’re all quite similar helps.
However you are feeling (good or bad), you’re not alone - even though it can feel like you are.
I know I’ve felt like you do now.
All my love,
Kristi 💛
