Dearest friend,
First, imagine a world without men in it. I think it would be awful in so many ways.
I don’t write this to you because I work with men. I write this to you because I’m in the business of helping people get along and live fabulous lives! I’ve studied and experienced men for a long time, so here is my perspective on what makes having men in our lives better (in no particular order).
No sex is superior. Both men and women come with amazing attributes. We are similar because we are human and that’s about it. When I'm upset with my opposite sex I question why we are so attracted to one another. I guess that’s what opposites are all about. We like things different from ourselves.
So that’s fun and one reason. It’s fun to watch how they handle things. What matters to them. And the better you get at listening to them the more fascinating they become.
Many would agree that men have been tasked with the purpose to PROTECT, PROVIDE and PROCREATE. And I think they’ve done a great job.
Men make me feel safe. I’d take one man over 5 women any day to make me feel protected. There’s something so comforting in knowing they will stand cover, understand the room and slay the dragons I might encounter. Thankfully we are pretty safe in the world, but a man by my side calms my nervous system. Men are considerably stronger than women. They are wired to protect us and I’m grateful for that. (Thank you testoterone)!
In my experience men have been extremely generous. It’s that providing thing. From gifts to dinners to putting together bbq’s and getting boats in the water - they are so helpful! And they want to provide. It makes them feel like they are needed. And men need to feel needed. I’m ok to say I need men. I’m not needy but I have needs. That is a nice fit.
Since I don’t have kids, the procreation thing doesn’t apply to me, but I sure enjoy the aspect of it, if you know what I mean. The chemistry we get to experience with someone we’re attracted to is so delicious! This is one reason why I’m happy to be a human and on this planet. Experiencing our bodies together and feeling pleasure is a gift and I don’t know who to thank for that!!
Actually, procreation does apply to me. Thank gosh my parents did that! My brothers and bro in law all gave me my nieces and nephews. I get to watch them be wonderful teachers and supporters to all these little humans who will one day love other humans, and contribute to society. Men as fathers are so crucial in the healthy development of a child.
I love the way men don’t hold onto things like old hurts or disagreements. They are typically faster to forgive. They are direct and to the point. They are so very smart. They get shit done. They just handle it. They are often right and can simplify when I make things complicated.
They don’t complain much and they are so accepting.
I love men's humor. They can lighten the mood. They are playful. They also have a superpower to get children to listen. They come with an authority that is palpable and attractive. They do jobs that women don’t want to do. Men go to war if necessary. I don’t want to do that.
I really love knowing that men want to make women happy. And when we focus on the good in them and appreciate them, they actually do adore us and give us the attention we desire.
Next week I will share with you what I love about women.
As we go into the holiday season, I ask you to notice the greatness of others. It feels much better to appreciate each other than to be at odds.
All my love,
K 💛
