Hey there friend!
Well, I have recouped from my birthday bash and it was nothing but perfection! I was almost going to be lazy and just send some pics but of course I made some time to write to you because I enjoy it. 😁
So without further ado -
Is being honest and truthful the same thing? It’s tricky.
Can you be honest and kind? Yes.
Can you be dishonest and kind? I don’t think so. It may appear that way on the surface, but it can hurt someone (or you), even though it’s subtle.
Being called an honest person is a huge compliment to me. And yet it sometimes comes at a cost. (Thankfully short term).
Other words to describe an honest person are: trustworthy, sincere, candid, frank, ethical, principled, genuine, authentic.
The opposite of honest is: dishonest, lying, deceitful, corrupt, untrustworthy, fraudulent, false.
Can you be both? I’d say no. If you are sometimes honest and sometimes untrustworthy, that is not being in alignment and pain will show up in time. Can you be sincere and a fraud? You decide. It just feels weird to me.
Here’s where it gets tricky. The word truthful. My ‘truth’ may very well differ from yours. It’s so important to remember this distinction. You can be honest about your truth and easily offend someone. Plus add the wrong tone and wow you can really get yourself in trouble. People get stuck in right and wrong. Your truth is your truth. Their truth is theirs. Allow both.
I’m not advocating for you to walk around telling everyone ‘your truth’ as if it’s the rightway. But we all do it (and maybe me even writing this feels like that to you)! Sharing your truth probably has or will offend someone, so whatever. We’re imperfect humans. Sometimes I call that sharing and others see it as making another viewpoint wrong. Work in progress on the delivery. 🤪
Back to honesty though.
How do you view honesty? Maybe honesty comes natural to you. If you’re not honest, would you like to be? I’m sure you have good reasons to not be. Can you be honest to some people but not others?
It seems to me that it’s the reaction of others that can often dictate what we do/say. Which is actually inauthentic when you think about it.
I’m asking you to think about how comfortable you are about being honest. To yourself and others.
Sometimes my reactions are often not my truth. Because my truth requires time and an allowance of emotion. Honesty told from that place is truth. People can handle honesty, because true honesty is vulnerable.
When we can’t handle the truth it’s usually because we either don’t agree or we don’t want to deal with the consequences. That’s where it gets tricky.
I hope this makes sense and you realize the value of honesty. Maybe I should have just sent pics. Haha.
All my love,
K 💛
